You know what’s weird? Making friends as a grown up.
You might find this hard to believe, but I’m a little socially awkward. I have a tendency to get quiet in groups, as I prefer to listen rather than talk. I also tend to make really bad and usually inappropriate jokes when I’m uncomfortable.
Once I open up around people I am pretty fun, but I’m a total dirty pervert. I keep my filter in place as best as possible, but there’s a 99% chance that something is going to slip out at one point or another.
For this reason, making new friends, especially female ones, isn’t always a smashing success for me.
This brings me to yet another reason why Crossfit is awesome.
Sure, I have friends outside of Crossfit. They know me and love me, despite all my quirks that I took care to slowly expose them to over time. One of my newest friends is officially firmly in friend territory now as we’ve totally shared sex stories over wine. This is after nearly a year of working together.
But Crossfit friends are… different. First off, these people see me at my worst. No make up, it’s questionable whether or not I’ve brushed my teeth, and I’m swearing like a sailor and making “that’s what she said” jokes without hesitation.
I’ve probably farted in front of all of them too.
And that’s just the first impression.
It’s been really interesting to me to see how these relationships have evolved over time. So many have started as just the people I WOD with, but have really quickly become a friendship. I totally teared up when I saw pics of super-awesome-girl-coach and pervy-but-we-love-him-anyway on their wedding day. I care about muscley-firefighter-guy and his super-smokin-wife and how they’re doing. Sexy soccer girl is one of my favorite people ever, and I totally saw her naked today so we have to be friends, right? (Relax boys, the new gym actually has showers and a locker room so we were just getting ready for work).
Sure, having Crossfit in common is a nice start to a friendship, but I can’t help but believe that this is so much more than just a sport. This isn’t just about sweating and lifting weight and going home. We really kind of are a family, and as cheesy as it is to say, I believe that mentality and that bond really makes for some awesome friendships.
Then again, so do Tequila shots.